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Tuesday, October 20, 2020

Baby B Gender Reveal!! My thoughts, feelings and reaction

For as long as I can remember I have always wanted a girl. A little mini me that I could do all the girlie things with like manis and pedis. Do her hair and paint her toes, raise her to be strong and independent like mommy but kind and super smart at the same time. I had it all planned out in my head. But you know what they say about plans.....tell God and he laughs. All the while I was planning and praying for a little girl, God was preparing and planting the SON who would be just for me. Touché  God, touché. 

How I found out I was having a BOY?

When I was 8 weeks pregnant I had a VERY VIVID dream of my future son. He came to me in my dream with his cute little face and introduced himself to me. He told me he was so happy to have me as his mommy and he couldn't wait to meet me. He told me his name and said he'll see me soon. 🥰🥰 I know, is that not THE CUTEST! 😩 I woke up the next morning and called my mom and a few friends and told them about my dream. My mom believed me right away and she already knew. My mom has been saying I was having a boy before I was ever pregnant. 🤷🏾‍♀️ I guess Moms just know. My friends assured me I would have my girl and the dream was just a pregnancy dream. I still hoped for a girl but deep down I was already preparing for this man child. At 15 weeks this was confirmed via ultrasound. 

My initial reaction to knowing I was having a SON. 

So I will be 1000% percent honest here, after my dream I cried for 3 days straight. I cried AT LEAST 5 times a day for 3 whole days. There is a whole different vision that comes to my mind as a black mother in America about raising a son in today's society. There were no visions of mommy and me manis and pedis or visualizing my future feminist. Instead I had visions of George Floyd, Travoyn Martin and Tamir Rice. The pressures of societal and cultural norms that are placed on young black boys. And of course the most obvious of them all, how can I, a SINGLE WOMAN, raise a MAN? I don't know how to be a man but I surely know how to be a woman. All of these things combined sent me into a tailspin of emotions. I was a WRECK you hear me. On the 4th day, I wiped my tears, stood up straight and got my mind right. You WILL be the BEST DAMN BOYMOM to this baby, period! *in my city girl voice*😁 

As of today, I couldn't be more excited to be having a boy! I can't imagine another baby besides him and I look forward to the journey of being his mommy every step of the way. I know it will be hard but hey, I'm made for hard things. After all, I'm a Diamond dear, nothing can break me. 😉 So to all of you that guessed BOY, you were right on the money. Baby B is a BOY and coming Feb 2021, stay tuned!!


Thursday, October 1, 2020

First Trimester Recap: Symptoms and MUST-HAVES

Good Morning dolls! Popping in today to write a quick recap of my first trimester, the good, bad and the ugly. To be honest, before getting pregnant, I envisioned loving pregnancy. I had visions of glowing skin and a perfectly round bump and slaying all the pregnancy looks effortlessly. I figured the ones that made pregnancy look easy were the norm and the ones that had a difficult time pregnant were rare and that surely wouldn't be me! Now don't get me wrong, I'm so very thankful to be pregnant but there are some days (or weeks for that matter), where it is NOT very enjoyable at all. The aches, pains, tender breasts and body changes are all very real. I now understand more than ever the ladies who say growing a human is HARD WORK, it's both beautiful and terrifying at the same time. Each week is something new but I'm learning to enjoy the journey overall. 

Here are a few of my favs from my first trimester and hopefully it will help any ladies out there going through the same thing.

Preggie Pop Nausea Candy: While I didn't experience major nausea or tons of toilet hugging my first trimester, I did have that awful quesy feeling constantly. Because I didn't have a constant need to vomit I felt like I was winning overall. However, the constant quesy feeling was quickly subdued when I popped one of these Preggie Pops. I literally kept them by my bed, in my kitchen and at my work desk. I've tried several other pregnancy candies and not only do these taste the best but they worked. Now if you have extreme nausea with vomiting and all I'm not too sure how these would fair but they are surely worth the try. 

Waiting in Wonder Pregnancy Journal: As I was searching for a journal to capture all of my pregnancy ups and downs I came across this faith based journal. It is a daily devotional as well as journal but it helps you along your journey with prayer and bible verses. In times I was doubting my decision or struggling with pregnancy discomfort being able to tie it back to my faith has been very helpful. I prayed for this little one for years and then when the reality of actually being pregnant hit me it hit me hard at times. That and your emotions and hormones during this time are all over the place. This journal helps to center me.

Prenatal Vitamins: Prenatal Vitamins are a must while pregnant but honestly there are so many on the market to chose from it can be very overwhelming. I picked this particular one found at Target because of the organic and whole food ingredients. 

Badger Belly Butter: You guys I have been borderline psycho with the stretch mark routine. I DO NOT want stretch marks and have been trying everything to prevent them. My bestie sent me a bottle of  Bio Oil and I was in love, go bestie 😘! Then came this butter, also amazing. I love it for it's organic ingredients and creamy texture. It spreads easily and lasts a long time, a little bit goes a long way. I snagged this guy off Amazon and so glad I did. 

Pregnancy Pillow: Listen, you need this pillow....period. I can end this point right here just trust me on this. That first trimester I was going through it ya'll. Peeing every hour it felt like and weird body pains. For some reason all of a sudden sleeping in my perfectly comfortable bed suddenly felt like sleeping on a pile of bricks. I was miserable. Until I discovered this pillow that is. It just makes sleeping so much more comfortable. I use this thing while lounging on the couch, in bed and even when I travel. I've only been to family's house but my pregnancy pillow comes with. Period. 

I'm curious to know what were some of your MUST-HAVES or FAVS while pregnant. Leave them in the comments for me, I'm 19 weeks and well into my 2nd trimester but I'm still trying out new products and things constantly. Please do share!


Sunday, September 13, 2020

I am a Single Mom...By Choice!!

Hi dolls, I know it's been a minute since my last blog post but I assure you it's for good reason! If you follow me on Instagram or Facebook then you would have heard that I'm currently expecting my first child!! I am truly beyond excited and can not wait to embark on my greatest adventure to date. Below are a few questions I've received so far.

How far along are you? 

As of today, I'm 17 weeks (4 months) and due in February. The baby is the size of a pomegranate! 

How did you find out you were pregnant? 

Good ole pregnancy test at home! First Response for the win!

What were your first symptoms?

Lower back pain on my right side. I'm pretty sure those were implantation cramps.

Do you know the gender?

Yes, I do and will be revealing it soon. Until then leave any guesses in the comments below!

Was your pregnancy planned or a surprise?

My pregnancy was VERY planned and took me about 3 years to conceive. 

My journey to motherhood has been different than most but not completely unheard of. A few years ago upon discovery of fibroids in my uterus that would have prevented me from ever getting pregnant, I made the choice to take the path to motherhood solo as a single mother by choice. I chose an unknown/anonymous donor and went to a fertility specialist to conceive. I was able to get pregnant via medicated IUI (intrauterine insemination) cycle. This was after many bad dates, a failed relationship, 2 fibroid surgeries, failed or missed cycles, countless prayers, years of therapy, and lot of tears to now here, pregnant and I couldn't be happier!

Every journey to motherhood is unique and personal. Ask any woman that has had fertility issues (1 in 4) and they will tell you it's an incredibly emotional and lonely journey at times. My journey was no different. I'm telling my story to let you know that if you are a single women in your 30's with fertility issues and WANT children, you do have options and you are not alone and I would be happy to be a resource in any way I can to you. Am I nervous and scared to do this as a single mom with absolutely no backup (i.e. child support, weekend visits etc), without a doubt....YES! I would be crazy not to, but I also know that I have so much love to give and not having biological children of my own was NOT an option for me. I have a great support system and a "village" of people eagerly waiting to pour into my little one when they arrive, so for that I'm incredibly grateful and blessed. Families come in all shapes and sizes these days and I am beyond excited to be creating my own and sharing the journey with you all. 

Thank you again for all the well wishes I've received so far, I tried to reply to each and every one of you. I appreciate it more than you know. If you have any questions for me please leave them below, I'll be sure to do a Q&A later and I'm happy to chat in my inbox with anyone that might have questions for me.  

#BabyBLoading #singlemotherbychoice 


Saturday, May 2, 2020

The Honey Pot Co Review - My HONEST, UNFILTERED opinion

Hello dolls, this post is long overdue. This post was intended to go up before COVID-19 hit then it just didn't seem right to post but here we are. 6 weeks later and still in quarantine. 😏 So rather than let these beautiful pics, I spent a LOT of time on, go to waste, here we go. 

A few weeks ago when the whole Honey Pot drama occurred where white women took it upon themselves to be offended by Target for featuring brand owner, Bea Dixon in a commercial where she said her company was to pave the way for young black girls to come.  This was not a dig at any other race but simply HER truth statement and encouragement for young black women entrepreneurs to come. White woman took offense to it, threatened to boycott Target, left bad reviews on the website to destroy her product ratings etc. They were BIG BIG MAD. *Insert intense eye roll here*

In response, many black women, including myself, rallied to support this Queen. I went out and purchased every single Honey Pot product I could find and here are my thoughts:

Sensitive Foaming Feminine Wash: This daily feminine wash claims to boost moisture levels down there, calm irritations and balance your pH while gently cleansing the area. It’s gentle enough to be used daily with no itching, irritation or burning. So I will say this, while this was nice to use I reach for this product the least. I personally prefer something with more lather and slip to it and this doesn’t have much. I do not typically suffer from pH issues down there so I didn’t notice much of a difference at all with this product. The website does say that if you typically experience irritation, dryness or infections down there this product would be good for you. 

Herbal Everyday Panty Liners: These pantyliners are my FAV! They are made from pesticide-free cotton and infused with essential oils that give you this amazing “cooling” effect. When I say “cooling” effect think mouthwash for your lady parts. Not in a burning way but in a nice refreshed and clean way. The website claims they help with cramps and discomfort  which I experience heavily, but for me I will say I like anything that makes me feel super clean down there and these do that. I give this product 2 thumbs up, I love them!

Super Herbal Pads with Wings: TMI Alert: I am a heavy bleeder around that time of month so Super is my go-to size when Aunt Flow is in town. I picked these up and I must say I am a fan. These are not Day 1 and 2 pads for me, not quite thick enough but for Day 3-5 they are perfect. I love the soothing effect the herbs have. It does not burn but feels more like a mint or mouth wash for your lady parts. I like it, I think it feels fabulous but beware that it’s coming. Not gonna lie when I wore my first one the cooling effect took me by surprise and I thought I was having a reaction until I read the package and realized it was supposed to do that. Once you are aware it feels good and not overpowering at all.  

Sensitive Feminine Wipes: The sensitive feminine wipes are fantastic. I don’t use wipes every single day but I do occasionally use baby wipes down there. I thought I’d try these instead. I found them super gentle and refreshing but not in a “cooling” way I mentioned earlier. These are made with herbal ingredients but they leave the tingling effect out of these, which I like. A LOT. 

Overall, I really like this line. I love that it’s made with natural and herbal ingredients. I also like that it’s different with the cooling effect some products give you. And last but not least I love that it was created by a black woman! While I don’t see myself continuing to purchase ALL the products I will say the pantyliners and wipes will be an everyday staple for me. I would surely recommend giving the line a try and see what products work for you, that is if you can get your hands on them. If you’ve already tried the line I would love to know what you thought about the products below! 

NOTE: I will say these products are pretty hard to find these days. I routinely check my local Target when I go and they have not been fully stocked for some time. The website is also Sold Out of most products.

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