Sunday, September 29, 2019

5 Things You Need To STOP Today! I AM!

Happy Sunday dolls! I can't remember the last time I posted on a Sunday but here we are, just going with it. I promise I'll get to the good beauty and fashion content soon, for now I feel like chatting. So if you follow me on Instagram you know I took a ME day yesterday. A day where I spend the day doing some self-care inside and outside. Never forget to do the hard inner work while getting the exterior together as well. During that time the following 5 things kept coming up and I've decided I'm giving them up today, NOW, right NOW!

What I'm Wearing:
Jeans: Levi's
Pearl Headband: Amazon

1. Negative Self-Talk
I talked about this in my last post HERE and has been something I'm constantly working on. I think it's easier said than done because we tend to be our own worst critics. Being positive and speaking life into YOU is essential to your happiness. Period. The world is harsh enough without us adding to it. One question I would ask myself is would you tell your closest friend the things you tell yourself. The answer is always an unequivocal NO. I can be a pretty blunt person but I'm not cruel, never cruel. The things I have said to myself have be just downright cruel at times. That iiish stops NOW!

2. Trying To Be Understood by Those Who Are Committed to Misunderstanding You
Are you friends with people that make you think twice about your own character? I don't mean in a constructive, honest, make you better, real but loving way either. I mean in a way that they try to make you out to be a bad person or feel shit about yourself for no reason kind of way. I am the QUEEN of purges ya'll, I will un-cousin, un-friend, un-boyfriend, un-family you real quick! For this reason I don't have many people in my circle that fall into this category, but because I'm so sensitive with energies I'm quick to notice it. Listen, get rid of people you find having to explain your inner character to constantly. That person doesn't understand nor truly wants to understand you. I am human and have moments but if you base a MOMENT I shared with you on my entire character and you've know me for years, then that is YOUR misunderstanding of me as a person and NOT my problem. Just because you do one bad thing doesn't make you a bad person and middle finger to anyone that tries to tell you you are! F them Sis, you know your heart that's all that matters. STOP explaining yourself, PERIOD. 

3. Putting Any Ole Thing in my Body
Ya'll, this one is hard. My diet these days is one of the HARDEST things for me to get ahold of. I mean I eat ALL the things, everything I know I shouldn't but do it anyway. This is something that will simply need to be mind over matter and a true test of discipline but I can do it. My issue is my addiction to sugar (Coca-Cola) and fast food. I mean the stuff doesn't even taste good (except Chick-fil-A, Chick-fil-A is bae!) but for some reason I continue to eat the stuff. I have a beautiful kitchen and all the tools, cookbooks and food so there is no excuse. So what's the plan? Good question…it's simple. Start small and meal prep Mon-Fri and allow the bad stuff on the weekends. I don't want to be too strict and then get into a cycle of beating myself up when I'm not perfect. Nope. Start small, have grace with myself but be prepared. Most of my bad eating habit come from not being prepared with things easily available at home. Because everything needs to be chopped or defrosted I take the quick and cheap route instead. No bueno, do better Naja. I would love to be in a place where I eat mostly organic and eat at home 90% of the time. I'm actually a pretty good cook and don't mind it so I would ideally do that more. My goals are to try new recipes, eat whole foods, actually enjoy vegetables and NEVER pick up a Coca-Cola again. (Seriously, that stuff is the DEVIL!)

4. Going Out the House Looking Crazy
So we touched on this is THIS post about not having anything to wear. Here's the thing, that's a bold faced lie that ALL women tell ourselves when we have nothing we WANT to wear AT THAT TIME. Closet full of clothes with nothing to wear. Uh hun, sure Sis. Listen, this point isn't even about that. If I'm honest I just fell into a depression and didn't give a F*CK! I simply didn't care that the sweatpants I threw on to run to the store had a hole and 3 stains on them. Or that I haven't put on a stitch of makeup or plucked a single brow in a month at least. Mind you I work from home so this is not uncommon for me. This stops now. Even though I don't work in an office or have anywhere "special" to go I still have to show up for MYSELF everyday! If you wouldn't present this person to your worst enemy or to your boss on Monday morning why present it to yourself on a daily? My goal is to get dressed as if I'm going into the office daily. Dress Code: Elevated casual. I will keep you guys posted on this in future posts. I think it will be fun to do a weekly roundup of my outfits. Not only to keep myself accountable to this goal but as a fashion diary to look back on. I remember when Cupcakes and Cashmere started doing this YEARS ago and I really enjoyed it.

5. Saying NO to Everything That Doesn’t Reside in my SAFE Place.
I rarely say YES to things outside of my comfort zone. Like hardly ever. I realized this is the case in most things as of late. I think this is perfectly acceptable in things you know doesn't align with your vibe, goals, lifestyle etc. But then there are times when you have to step outside your normal and safe comfort zone in order to grow. I once had a guy stop me at a red light (we were both driving) to ask me for my number. He went on to explain that he had just seen me at the local store but he was just leaving the gym and felt unsuitable to approach me. He promised he wasn’t following me and instead took us both being beside each other at this red light as his second chance to ask me out. He politely asked for my number and if he could take me out sometime throwing in the fact that he looks totally different outside of gym clothes. Y’all the light turned green and I panicked. I politely said thank you for the kind gesture but I wasn’t interested and drove off. Doh! 🤦🏾‍♀️ So let me tell you why I regret that moment. I truly believe in what’s meant to be will be and all that Jazz however (comma), -Yes, The comma after however is said out loud. I said NO to that man not because I didn’t want to say YES or I was uninterested. I regret that because the situation and scenario in which he asked me was not one I had experience with or thought to be “ideal”. I’m annoyed at myself because I didn't step outside of my comfort zone and say yes to the awkward proposal. It was not a bad gesture, he didn't hit me with that YO, MA  LET ME HOLLA ATCHU line, he was nice, respectful, complimentary and honest but I had this differently idea of how he "should" have asked me out and said no. In hind sight that was stupid and not even that deep, who knows what that could have led to. I'm ashamed to say I have many stories like that.

So there you have it, 5 things I'm giving up right NOW! What are some things you need to give up? No better time like today to start living how you know you should. 


  1. Thank you for this I am guilty of negative self talk. I even let it stop me from blogging and it's hard to even want to come back now even tho I"m getting back in my fashion groove. Love your transparency and thanks for the link to the headband!

    1. Please please please get back to blogging! Get back to anything that you love. We talk ourselves of things we enjoy all day long. Blog through the process of getting your groove back, you can do it girl! Oh and Amazon is the plug, you're so welcome ;-)



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